Father’s Day is a day for children to celebrate the special bond created between a father and son or daughter. While some might consider it a Hallmark holiday, it has become a very important day in crafting your custody and visitation agreements. Even if you are not bound by an agreement or court order, having a plan in place to address the day should be thought out based on what is in the best interest of the children.
Before you make any decisions, it is important to speak with a qualified New York City child custody lawyer. A skilled attorney may also be able to help you understand legal custody and your roles and responsibilities as a parent.
Generally speaking, there are several ways to craft the day into your parenting agreements. It may involve changing or swapping weekends with the other parent or even carving out part of the day so that father and child can have a special day together. If your case is still pending, a judge may consider this as a factor in determining who is the appropriate custodial parent. The parent who is able to promote a healthy relationship with the other party becomes a positive quality when making this type of decision.
Even though you may not be together with your ex, your kids may need help to celebrate the day with dad. Especially for younger children, this may mean helping them make or buy a card or a small gift for their father. While this is probably the last thing you will want to do for your ex, you should consider what message it will send to your children in having a healthy relationship with their father if you don’t. And for the fathers, if you forgot this tip for mother’s day, it should your first thought next year.
Parenting Rights of a Father
Once someone files divorce papers, the judge will give temporary custody to either of the parents. The temporary custody arrangement will be in effect until the final divorce papers are filed. At that point, the judge will make a permanent custody decision.
Many fathers are too passively letting the legal process go by without understanding that temporary custody orders could easily become permanent custody orders. This is why it is important for fathers to ask for temporary custody by themselves, or keep in touch with their children. It is a fundamental right for fathers to be able to see their children after a divorce. However, many fathers lose contact during the process of their divorce and that makes it seem almost inevitable that the mother would get custody of the children after the divorce.
Talk to your divorce lawyer about seeking temporary custody of your children. It does not matter whether you are the one who initiated your divorce or if it was your spouse. Obtaining temporary custody of your children may also be able to help you obtain permanent custody. If you decide not to seek temporary custody, you should create an action plan that will allow you to stay in contact with your children.
If you have questions about visitation, parenting time, child custody, or parenting plans, we encourage you to give our office a call at (718)-293-1542 or contact us online to speak with one of our experienced child custody attorneys.